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Day 7 of 21 Day Challenge (3 Ways/Things)

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Day 7 of the 21 day challenge of “re-wiring” my brain to value myself, my life and others.

Preface: Thanksgiving was today and it turned out to be a pretty good day overall!

3 Ways You Value Yourself

  1. I’m good at making everyone feel included!
  2. I give wonderful compliments where they’re due!
  3. I can empathize with other people fairly well.

3 Ways You Added Value To Someone Else’s Life Today

  1. I was present and participated in today’s Thanksgiving dinner/late lunch and enjoyed talking, eating and spending time with everyone there and I think they all enjoyed having me there (it was at Lucas’ mom’s house with his sister, her boyfriend, his mom’s boyfriend and his son)!
  2. I brought things in from the car for Lucas and also cleaned parts of the car a little bit!
  3. I complimented Lucas’ mom on all of the good food she spent so much time making for all of us and I was also genuinely interested in the things she had to say during our spending time with her. I think sometimes I forget how thoughtful and genuine she can be – nonetheless, I appreciated going to her house today and I think she valued having me there!

3 Things In Your Life That Make You Feel Abundant

  1. Loving family and friends who enjoy spending time with me and being involved/updated on my life.
  2. A bedroom full of cute guinea pigs!
  3. My “footy” pajamas that I somehow forgot about that were given to me by my previous roommate! They’re animal-styled so I have one that’s a flying squirrel with fabric flaps and a kangaroo one with a pouch. I’m excited to wear them when it gets snowy because they’re comfortable and super warm!

Quote of the Day: “I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual.” – Henry David Thoreau

A Sculptor of Humanity

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I don’t carve people into boxes they don’t belong in. But, I don’t carve anyone into anything they don’t already want to be. Basking in the newly polished form, you do not create anything, you simply put the finishing touch on what already was, regardless of them realizing fully. I am a bit different. I seem to find people in all walks of self development and inquisition and give them the gift that is knowing the self, finding their wants, needs and desires, all the while, finding myself in the process. I don’t think I polish, I think I help carve, while carving and polishing myself at the same time.

Sometimes..a lot of times..what happens is I get to the point with someone, be it a friend, lover etc, where they don’t want to be carved by anyone other than themselves, or they realize I’m helping them into becoming themselves and it’s too much and they fear it, so that’s when I willingly step back. Whether that is for minutes, hours, days, months..or years..or never again. Sometimes I feel as if I’ve done all I can do and now it’s up to them, I’m seeing my lack of friends now, not as exclusionary, not as self harm, but rather as a “I’m passing the torch”. I am like a relationship nomad, always coming and going when the timing is right and when it is beneficial for any and all parties. This does not mean, however, that any relationship is any less meaningful or significant than those that seem to, will or want to last.